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You’ll Lose Friends in Your 20s, and That’s a Good Thing
Outgrowing relationships doesn’t erase them from the past.
When you’re young, you don’t appreciate things the same way you do when you’re older. Among these under-appreciated things are art and irony.
In middle school, I was in a band with my friends. We weren’t very good, but we had fun playing The Beatles, Weezer, Nirvana, and Green Day. We even played a show at The Rex Theater in Pittsburgh’s SouthSide. It was a Beatles cover show with plenty of local groups put on by Pittsburgh Guitars.
We played two songs, “Something” and “In My Life.”
For those unfamiliar, these are the opening lyrics to “In My Life:”
There are places I’ll remember
All my life, though some have changed
Some forever, not for better
Some have gone and some remain
All these places have their moments
With lovers and friends, I still can recall
Some are dead and some are living
In my life, I’ve loved them all
There’s this funny thing that happens in your 20s — you change. Rapidly, unknowingly, ceaselessly, you’re thrust into the adult world, and childhood becomes nostalgia. You’re not the same kid anymore. You’re not a kid at all.
